Introduction – the reality of digital overload
Day by day we scroll through social media platforms, some this, some that, but there are those who scroll almost all of them that are available nowadays. This conveys quite a lot of information to those for whom this is a daily routine. Some “news” is useful, others less so, in fact, most of the scrolled information we cannot even process. There are some that seem more interesting, we delve into those a bit more, but then we move on. I think I can safely state that this applies to almost everyone nowadays, obviously there are exceptions, but they too get informed through some medium, unless it’s in church, at the hairdresser’s, or on the street.
There are countless groups that are gathering places for people who are obviously connected by a given topic or interest, be it a city, a hobby, work, politics, world-related topics, and many others that one can imagine.
Social groups hold a mirror up to society
I follow many such groups too, because my interests are quite diverse, but there is one thing that is present in every group. Quite strongly, as a matter of fact, and this somehow also prompted me to write this post, or monologue. And this is nothing other than incredible aggression, arrogance, negativity, pessimism, hostility, divisiveness.
Overall, I think it’s not a problem if not everyone thinks the same, the world would be quite boring if everyone thought the same way, wanted the same things, and agreed on everything.
Debate That Becomes an Attack
However, I can’t ignore the fact that everywhere you look, you encounter the same thing: some people (and there are quite a few of them) approach others with incredible arrogance and hostility. This applies to political, religious, professional, or practically any other viewpoint. Someone always acts smarter, or the “other side” gets hurt because of it. Unfortunately, there’s a reason for this behavior, but it doesn’t necessarily mean it accurately reflects reality, or if it does, that people should express themselves in such a way.
I don’t wish to pass judgment on anyone, as everyone has behaved this way at some point. No one is a saint, everyone has flaws, and everyone knows that this is probably not the best way to express oneself. However, some simply don’t care, while others are conscientious enough to be hurt by experiencing such remarks, or even to retaliate. This leads to meaningless debates and arguments, especially when “armchair warriors” pontificate, who don’t always have a realistic view of certain topics because they don’t research them and have no intention of doing so.
The Decline of Civility
Today, sheer malice and arrogance have become a fundamental aspect of society. Furthermore, knowledge of etiquette, culture, and respect has become severely lacking. These are things people ideally learn at home, but educational institutions don’t go overboard with promoting and accepting them either. Nowadays, everyone just wants to survive at their workplace, and there are fewer and fewer truly dedicated professionals. Unfortunately, those who try are often disregarded, as etiquette, good manners, and respect are no longer in vogue. Current generations disregard such fundamental truths as the need to respect parents, teachers, and adults in general, especially those who help them—or at least, they should.
A Widespread Issue
However, general experience and numerous observations show that this phenomenon, the decline of intelligent behavior, is also found in older generations. Unfortunately, in recent decades, the aforementioned traits have undergone a significant decline – and one could point fingers here about whose fault this is – but this still doesn’t give anyone the right to display the unacceptable behavior that many do.
What Caused This?
We can blame the media, the insane spread of the internet, social media platforms (which, in my humble opinion, significantly contribute to societal division), political disagreements, or even deliberate dumbing down of the population (unfortunately, this is also a present problem).
The problem is everywhere. Sadly, we encounter these things daily, and after a while, we just accept them as part of everyday life. This immeasurable hatred, arrogance, hostility, insults, looking down on others, and the collection of accompanying words — one might say the culmination of human stupidity.
The Path to Improvement
However, few people talk about how this could be improved. We don’t necessarily have to accept these things, because there are ways, even if only partially, to remedy them, starting with self-education. Unfortunately, this doesn’t even cross many people’s minds, because they think, “this is fine for me as it is.” Yet many forget that these learnable skills could significantly improve their current life situation, their attitudes toward certain things, and even their cultural perception. They could escape the everyday gray rut they once fell into and became content with the idea that things wouldn’t get better for them. True, there are also those for whom their current situation is perfect, and they never wanted more than that. This is fine, it’s obviously everyone’s own decision. However, there are also those who could change it but can’t find a way out of their current situation, and thus become what they are at the moment. In some cases, this behavior is just a learned defense mechanism because they are not satisfied with themselves and can’t find what could make them more, even though it might be enough to just listen to others’ advice and ponder, “what if?” It’s simpler to just attack and lecture others, saying, “don’t you tell me.”
Learned Helplessness and Defense
The concept of learned helplessness exists, which we all essentially apply, having adopted many negative habits over the years, including this one. Many studies examine what causes it and how it creeps into our lives, but there’s no single definitive reason even today; many factors combine to develop it within us. Despite this, there’s good news: learned helplessness is not a permanent state. With conscious self-development, reading, focused learning, a supportive environment, or therapy, the feeling of self-efficacy – the experience of “I can influence things” – can be rebuilt.
The Way Out and the Possibility of Change
The situation is, how you approach the issue and whether you want to deal with it is entirely up to you. If you’re comfortable with your everyday life and it’s enough for you, then this post will at most be just something you read, if you even read it at all.
However, if you want to change your life, then the world is watching you. Get started. Take the initiative and create opportunities for yourself; believe me, they won’t just come to you and line up at your door. That doesn’t happen.
Learn, develop, build relationships, give value to others so you can also receive. Grab a book, sit down, and read. Start small, then pick up another, and another. Believe me, you won’t regret it.
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